Friday 21 June 2013
Inspirational Quotes Part 37
When you make me hurt you I'm doing it because I love you and want you to learn to behave. (Rosa Rubicondior)
Appearances are everything if one is clinging onto one’s dignity. (Woman at French food bank, BBC)
Never held down a relationship. (Alcoholic at soup kitchen, BBC)
We are wired to seek a romantic partner in such a powerful, fundamental way that we even get a considerable kick out of doing it by proxy. (tvtropes)
Even tiny, seemingly silly arguments can have the most cumulatively corrosive effect. (India Knight 2013-05-05)
Social cognition research has shown how we adopt mental "scripts" for different aspects of our lives (BPS Digest May 2013)
I had to listen while my manager told one of my holiday stories as his own. (BBC Breakfast May 2013 )
And yet loneliness is made as well as given, and at a very early age. Deprive us of the attention of a loving, reliable parent, and, if nothing happens to make up for that lack, we’ll tend toward loneliness for the rest of our lives. Not only that, but our loneliness will probably make us moody, self-doubting, angry, pessimistic, shy, and hypersensitive to criticism. Recently, it has become clear that some of these problems reflect how our brains are shaped from our first moments of life… It’s tempting to say that the lonely were born that way—it’d let the rest of us off the hook. … Care for a pet or start believing in a supernatural being and your score on the UCLA Loneliness Scale will go down. Even an act as simple as joining an athletic team or a church can lead to... “molecular remodeling.” newrepublic.com
The media industry is high-status, but, at least early on, very low pay. (atlanticwire.com)
Second marriages don’t have to happen at all. The clocks have ticked, the children have appeared and all societal pressure has been removed — giving you a better chance at a union that happens because you really want it to, rather than because of duty or mores. India Knight 2013-05-05
I was in a bedsit in North London working at a book shop. No money, no girlfriend and not many friends. (Psychotherapist James Davies, Times May 2013 He sent his SOAS dissertation to Oxford, was accepted there and “my life changed”. That’s right, he didn’t change his attitude, he didn't try to change himself, he didn’t try to be happy with what he had, he did something that changed his life.)
These women won’t know your past, your dreadful indiscretions, your previous girlfriends, your wretched dating history. They won’t be able to place you socially, and your mother and friends will struggle to rate them… They are outside the system, and, in their eyes, you are a blank slate, able to rewrite your past, even your own character. And the longer you keep them away from your friends, the more you can reinvent yourself and your life. If all goes well, you become exotic by proxy… (Philip Delves Broughton in the Daily Telegraph on why Englishmen marry foreigners)
Rumsfeld’s speech was not gobbledegook but a lucid, even brilliant, exposition of a complex idea: (Oliver Kamm, Times May 2013)
There are known knowns; there are things we know that we know.
There are known unknowns; that is to say, there are things that we now know we don't know.
But there are also unknown unknowns – there are things we do not know we don't know.
Part 37 here, and links to the rest.