Thursday 14 January 2016

Inspirational Quotes 80

Practise your smile in the mirror

Don't copy others, people will take you at your own valuation and love you for your flaws.... (yawn zzzzz).

I just hope my daughter doesn’t ever have to feel like she has to prove she is beautiful or that she has a confident smile or all that jazz. (@matthaig1)

If dating and mating is in fact a marketplace – and of course it is... (Atlantic)

A woman who has been complicit in keeping this traditional partnership in place for old-fashioned bourgeois reasons – security and income. (Observer April 2015 If she’s doing it now, it’s modern.)

An ex-barista describes stealing over-the-counter chat from a naturally sunny colleague. (Observer April 2015)

The rule of thumb seems to be that the more successful the woman, the less likely it is she will find a husband or bear a child. (Economist Sylvia Ann Hewlett in 2002)

Dating can be a form of courtship consisting of social activities done by the couple. While the term has several meanings, it usually refers to the act of meeting and engaging in some mutually agreed upon social activity in public, together, as a couple... Behavior patterns are generally unwritten and constantly changing. (Wikipedia)

Psychology researchers at the University of Michigan suggested that men prefer women who seem to be “malleable and awed”, and prefer younger women with subordinate jobs such as secretaries and assistants and fact-checkers rather than executive-type women. (Wikipedia What was that about self-confidence being attractive?)

Men really dislike a literary woman
(especially if she is good)... (Dawn Powell)

Men don’t like strong women who are successful. (Katharine Hamnett March 2015)

[In the 80s] we felt we could change the world for the better. But somehow, by the end, we had £3,000 puffball skirts. (Katharine Hamnett)

I hate that “honor code” where nobody’s supposed to tell anybody that anybody’s cheating. (

Single women over a certain age continue to be stigmatized. (Time May 2015)

Whom to marry and when will it happen – these two questions define every woman’s existence. (Kate Bolick, in Spinster: Making a Life of One’s Own – sounds like a rerun of Live Alone and Like It)

“Everything happens for a reason” is usually what everyone says when life doesn’t go the way they wanted it to. (@madfactz)

Loneliness is bad for you. Some experts have even likened it to a kind of disease. (BPS Digest)

When I moved out on my own, I had such a difficult time adjusting to the real world that I spent years feeling like I had been duped and left on my own to figure out how to “de-weird” myself... Outsiders grow uncomfortable with your lack of familiarity with pop-culture, or find it wildly funny and strange when you miss an obvious social cue... Brene Brown wrote “Fitting in is about assessing a situation and becoming who you need to be in order to be accepted. Belonging, on the other hand, doesn’t require us to change who we are; it requires us to be who we are.” ... every time you were made fun of, misunderstood, felt cheated of a life most other kids had, felt behind in your education, had to add one more thing to your list of stuff you missed out on and are trying to catch up on... even though I may not have understood all the references being made, I knew I was being mocked, made fun of, or was the topic of conversation. (Homeschool graduate)

More here, and links to the rest.


  1. Home-schooling is a funny one: should be a reasonable choice but often isn't. It's not that school is so great, but there's something about going to school that you can't learn any other way. Where I used to live in US (Seattle) the homeschoolers had their own classes, co-ops, resource centres. So you did feel, 'at what point does this become an actual achool...?'